So Lillian did gain weight in the ten days between doctor visits but not as much as he'd like so he suggested I add another bottle of formula and come back in a month. Being the paranoid and pro-active mom I am I plan to go back in a week and see how it's going. I also got some help from my husband's, coworker's wife. They have three children and she is a La Leche League coach/helper and he gave my husband their home phone number to call her. She told me Lillian isn't in the danger zone, and that she's getting enough food for brian and bone growth, which made me feel better, and that she should be eating 8-10 times a day and no longer than 8 hours between meals. Lillian was eating 6 times a day and sleeping from 9pm to 8am, so hense a problem! I've started to write down when she eats again and what/for how long, and we've got her up to 8 feedings now a day, and plan to work it up to 10. We are also doing a twilight feeding. That's where I put her to sleep at 9pm but before I got to bed at 11pm I sneak in, pick her up and nurse her again while she's asleep. For her it's working out well. She stays asleep, gets another 25 minute feeding in and never knows about it. The only down side is so eats so much that she pees through her cloth diaper with two soaker pads, and cover. But washing extra sheets and blankets is a small price to pay for a healthy baby. Plus once she gains more weight she'll fit into the larger diapers our service has, and that means we can get nighttime soakers which should absorb all of it. I've also gone back on Fenugreek. I had to take it at the start of nursing because of some issues and it is used to increase your milk supply. So now I have more available for her and I can pump more so if we have issues, my husband can feed her a bottle more often if she won't eat from me.
So to sum up she's gaining, but not as much as we'd like. I hope to sneak back to my doctor next Thursday/Friday to weigh her after a week of doing the extra feedings my La Leche friend recommends and see how that goes. I'll post about it again after I get her weighed there and hopefully we'll have some good news!